(OC) I’ve never loved my physical appearance and physical looks. I just wanted one night to feel beautiful and for once and my prom night was the night. I loved the dress. I felt like a princess I felt like I was beautiful. I thought I’d share this with you

These are not easy or fun questions for many of us, including myself, to answer. Most of the people I know have problems, worries, or complaints about how they look and feel. I’ve had trouble for a long time with having a bad opinion of and feeling bad about my body. I don’t think my body is physically fit enough, I worry about parts of my appearance that I don’t like, and I just feel physically imperfect in a lot of ways.

I’ve had a hard time with feeling bad about my body and appearance for a long time, even though this has changed for me through different stages, injuries, and other things. Even though I say I’m “too mature” to care about such “superficial” things, I still have problems with how I look. I’m wrong to think that after all my efforts to improve myself, I should have gotten over this by now. We all want to look good, take care of ourselves, stay in shape, and so on. But, to be honest, a big reason I try to be “healthy” and take care of my physical needs is that I don’t want to get fat, look bad, or be seen as sick, unattractive, less than, or flawed . There is no “quick fix” for any of this, just like there isn’t for most of life’s big problems, but we can think about and try out certain things as we learn to truly love our bodies, ourselves, and our lives.

Forgiveness:

It’s important to forgive both ourselves and our bodies. We have often done, said, and thought very hurtful things about our bodies and about ourselves over the years. We can start to forgive ourselves for the ways we’ve hurt our bodies in the past if we have a healthy sense of guilt and a strong sense of empathy. At the same time, we can try to forget about how our bodies aren’t “perfect.”

Acceptance: 

Before we can fully love and heal ourselves, we must first accept our bodies and how we look. What if we could accept, value, and love our bodies exactly as they are now, whether we are at our ideal weight which most of us aren’t or love every part of our bodies which most of us don’t. Acceptance leads to peace, which brings healing, which brings love. Accepting our bodies and how we look is a big part of being happy with ourselves and with life.

Get real: 

It’s hard for many of us to think about or talk to other people about how we really feel about our bodies and looks in an open, honest, and vulnerable way. But if we want to change how we feel about our bodies, how we look, and how we feel about our lives, we have to be willing to go deeper than food, exercise, and cosmetics. How we feel about our bodies is at the heart of who we are as people. Often, problems with our bodies are signs of deeper problems with ourselves.